Dating a widower who still wears his wedding ring validating identitiy network error
I’m 78 and want to share my life again with someone special. The reason I ask and why your date might have asked is because you are clearly attached to those rings. They symbolize that you have given your heart to another.
Now, I want to say this as carefully as I can…you know that you are no longer married to your husband because he is no longer with us on the earth plane right? But that also means you probably aren’t quite ready yet.
I changed my relationship status on Facebook to “Engaged”.
Initially, he dove right into the relationship and we seemed to be the perfect match.Either that or “don’t you think it’s about time you started to date?” The point here is that everyone out there, especially those who don’t know what they are talking about, has an opinion on this.Having read advice columns and blogs on this subject and factoring in my own dating experiences, one is now tempted to come to an all together different conclusion. And for some reason these negative vibrations are somehow better than listening to a widower talking about his positive relationship with his late wife. I have always contended and probably always will believe that how a couple addresses conflict rather than days of wine and roses dictates the success of a relationship. Regardless of whether a previous marriage ended in death or divorce, there are memories and mementos.During my nearly seven years as a single follicly challenged dude, I have heard a litany of complaints from recent and not-so-recent divorcees about their ex-spouses including using charming names such as a..hole, d..k and the fact that his parents were not married when he was born. Sitting there politely while a female of the species verbally unloads on her ex is somehow commendable, but a knuckle-dragging male musing romantically in moderation about his dearly departed in the presence of a contending female is insensitive. Should a widower temper his discussion about his late wife and be cognizant about overdoing it? Should he take all of these memories, put a sock in it and permanently seal them away in a mental or real vault, never to be opened again? The trouble with widowers, and I have heard this more than once, is that if we discuss our late spouses more than a few times that triggers a knee-jerk conclusion from the mind readers that we have not come to terms with the passing of our beloved wives. The longer the marriage, the deeper the emotions and the thoughts about special places and times. Should all of these be put into a steamer trunk, locked and placed into the hold of the Lusitania?
He is a lovely man...kind, generous, thoughtful, and I love him dearly.